2 Year check-up:
Height: 36 & 1/4 inches tall
Weight: 35.11 ounces
If you do the math, our child is an amazon. Seriously? She weighs as much as she is tall. Erp. That’s 99th percentile for height, and above the 100th percentile for weight. That means that 100% of children in her age range weigh less than her. But yet, she’s not a total chunker, she’s just SOLID. Massively. SOLID.
Her lovely doctor has no worries about her developmentally, and even doesn’t mind her size. She just wants us to limit her all day grazing, and try to limit her snacks a bit more, to try and give her eating a bit more structure. We are fine with that. She was fine with Malka’s paci use – as it’s just for sleeping – naps and bedtime. As for potty training, we should follow Malka’s lead, which as of now? Means when she’s in high school. The kid has NO interest in the potty, other than to point out when Narda and I use it: “Eemah potty? Mommy potty?” “Yes, Malka, Eemah potty.”
Her numbers did come back slightly anemic, so we are swapping out her children’s vitamin for one with iron in it. I’m going to start using my cast iron skillet a LOT more often, and I’ll make some molasses cookies. And we’ll see what her levels are like in 6 months. They want to rule out dietary changes and make sure it’s just that simple.
Malka has always run a little on the hard end of the spectrum when it comes to poop, despite a fiber-rich diet, and now with the addition of iron, her doctor had us pick up some benefiber, and add a teaspoon to her morning “meetz,” aka, watered down OJ.
So we’ll keep you posted as to how the cheeky reacts to all of this intestinal change…
As for the motherhood discussions floating about, I want to have time think more on it. We tried to get pregnant for over 2 years, and ultimately, decided that adoption was the route for us. It was more important to us to be parents, than to have a birth experience, or a genetic link. For those of you that have met our family in person, you will no doubt trust that Malka knows who her eemahot are. So for us, with neither one being the bio-mom, there’s no sense of feeling threatened, or feeling like the dad, or any of those things. We have our own unique situations that come up. I am the primary caretaker, and Malka does have a preference for me over Narda. But only when we are together. When Narda and Malka are alone, it’s “eemah who?” But as a threesome, I am the preferred parent. Does this put Narda in the “dad” role? No. Does any of it matter? I don’t think so. One thing that Narda has brought up in the past, is that our general assumptions of fatherhood tend to be around men who “opt out” of decision making and child-rearing preferences, and she often feels that with two women, you innately have two people interested in the minutiae of how your child is raised. And that is where conflicts can arise. Sure there are resentments, and frustrations, and joy and bliss, but in the the day to day, it often feels like in a hetero couple, the ‘dad” often is less interested in the nitty gritty. And that’s where we see the differences. Now again, we also know some awesome dads out there, too, and they are just as much a 100% participant in the raising of their children, and in fact, we know 2 stay at home dads, where the mom is the breadwinner. So I’m just talking about my own generalized assumptions about the population en masse, and not about individuals or our friends.
More to come, but those are my thoughts for now.
What’s your take on all of it?